Ep. 269 - The Doctor Is In Series - The Fears That Drive Self-Sabotage

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Self-Sabotage. They will talk about the different ways people keep themselves from moving forward and how you can try to realign this misguided way of thinking. [Aug 5, 2024]

00:00 – Intro

00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:44 – Intro Links

• Social-Engineer.com– http://www.social-engineer.com/
• Managed Voice Phishing– https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/
• Managed Email Phishing– https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/
• Adversarial Simulations– https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/
• Social-Engineer channel on SLACK– https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb
• CLUTCH– http://www.pro-rock.com/
• org– http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/

04:57 – The Topic of the Day: Self-Sabotage

05:35 – Definition & Types

09:09 – Fear of Failure

11:13 – Fear of Success

13:55 – Low Self-Esteem

17:11 – Fear of Scrutiny

19:22 – Avoidant Personalities

23:27 – Help!

26:21 – Fighting Back

30:13 – Write Away

33:55 – Wrap Up

• The Doctors Corner

35:18 – Next Month: Attachment Styles

35:44 – Outro

• Work in Progress – Abbie Maroño
• social-engineer.com
• innocentlivesfoundation.org

Find us online:

• Twitter: @DrAbbieofficial
• LinkedIn: com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd
• Instagram: @DoctorAbbieofficial
• Twitter: @humanhacker
• LinkedIn: com/in/christopherhadnagy

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Ferrari, J. R., & Díaz-Morales, J. F. (2007). Perceptions of self-concept and self-presentation by procrastinators: Further evidence. The Spanish journal of psychology, 10(1), 91-96.

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Peel, R. (2020). Relationship sabotage: an attachment and goal-orientation perspective on seeking love yet failing to maintain romantic relationships (Doctoral dissertation, James Cook University).

Peel, R., & Caltabiano, N. (2021). The relationship sabotage scale: an evaluation of factor analyses and constructive validity. BMC psychology, 9, 1-17.

Peel, R., McBain, K., Caltabiano, N., & Buckby, B. (2017, January). How is self-sabotage presented in romantic relationships?. In 16th Australian Psychological Society Psychology of Relationships Interest Group National Conference (APS-PORIG). University of Southern Queensland.

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