Ep. 273 - The Doctor Is In Series - Secure or Insecure - What Is Your Attachment Style?

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Attachment Styles. They will talk about the 4 different types, how they are caused and how to grow from an insecure to a secure style. [Sept 2, 2024]

00:00 – Intro

00:16 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:49 – Intro Links

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03:49 – The Topic of the Day: Attachment Styles

05:01 – The Types

05:44 – Secure Attachment

07:32 – Anxious Preoccupied Attachment

09:27 – Primary and Secondary Influences

14:40 – Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

17:42 – Fearful Avoidant Attachment

20:01 – One at a Time

21:09 – Oxytocin Influence

26:30 – The Path Forward

29:51 – See It to Believe It

34:21 – Emotional Well-Being

• Work in Progress – Abbie Maroño

36:47 – Second Date Sharing

39:19 – Swipe Right

41:15 – Next Month: Judd Shaw

42:12 – Wrap Up & Outro

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