Ep. 129,  body language expert, Mark Bowden, joins host Chris Hadnagy. One huge question comes up – should you authentic or inauthentic? The answer will truly surprise you, and maybe change your life. – May 11, 2020

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Ep. 129

Ep. 129,  body language expert, Mark Bowden, joins host Chris Hadnagy. One huge question comes up – should you authentic or inauthentic? The answer will truly surprise you, and maybe change your life.

1:15 – How Mark came on the show
2:37 – Mark’s early interest in the nonverbal
7:55 – The inauthentic and the fakery : what it means & why should we discuss it?
10:32 – The DiSC profiling & Chris learning to become a new type of trainer
11:52 – Mark’s take on authoring oneself and the myth of the “authentic self”. What Mark recommends
14:56 – Anecdote: Picasso’s flexible take on authenticity
15:39 – When fakes are good & Telling stories through lying
18:17 – Do not mistake truths for facts.
19:44 – When truth is actually devastating & why failure aren’t the best teachers
21:53 – We try inauthentic things to expand who we are. But for how long? How do we approach this?
23:24 – One of the worst advice that Mark has gotten
23:55 – Mark’s take on “Fake it ’till Make it”
25:25 – Training offerings & updates on upcoming events:
26:50 – Ryan MacDougall, the introverted social engineer
28:00 – Not letting the introversion stop one’s transformation and the need for reinforcement for transformation
29:04 – The cost of “being yourself”
31:04 – Obstacles in adopting new behaviors and how it relates to SE, absence of payback for the uncomfortable behavior, and how it relates to SE. Choosing the right “prize”
38:15 – The importance of finding joy in work
40:18 – Mark’s training programs
41:59 – Mark’s book recommendation

Key Points:

  • Do not mistake truths from facts they are not the same.
  • If you tell a story and you massage some of the facts you sometimes get a stronger clearer truth from the story.
  • People first need to think that it’s valuable then believe that its true, so they go and use it.

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