Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.
In Ep. 193 Chris and Abbie are discussing: Shame. We talk about how shame helps us, hinders us, why some people can deal with it and why some can’t. We’ll also discuss various coping strategies and more. [Jan 02, 2023]
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Show Notes
00:00 – Intro
00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro
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03:38 – The topic of the day: Shame
05:44 – Is there a positive side to shame?
07:29 – Directed by beliefs
09:02 – Cultural differences
10:14 – Shame’s functionality
11:16 – Societal stigma
12:35 – How shame can hinder
16:36 – Literal shutdown
19:30 – Emotional Blunting
22:15 – Guilt vs Shame: Sense of Self
24:14 – Those who can, cope!
26:54 – When shame is a symptom
28:09 – Finding a support network
30:03 – The “core” of shame
33:45 – The road to Mindfulness
37:20 – Environmental Shame
38:34 – Horrifically fascinating
41:06 – You have to get out there!
43:00 – Tips for our younger listeners
45:25 – Remember Pen Pals?
46:44 – Wrap Up
47:39 – Outro
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